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The 12 Best Self-Development Activities That Will Change Your Life

What are the best self-development activities?  The ones that work consistently, reliably and give you the results you desire.  In this article, you will learn 12 of the best activities to improve yourself quickly and effectively.

I start by explaining what self-development is and what it isn’t. I’ll then briefly share my self-development journey with you.  This will help you understand what is possible when you consistently apply self-development activities to your life.

I’ll then uncover the 12 best self-development activities for an awesome life.  Don’t feel you have to do them all! Just pick the activities that resonate with you. The ones you feel are most helpful right now.

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What Is Self-Development

Self-development is about becoming more and wanting more in life.  It’s having greater success, happiness, or being more effective and proficient. It’s about developing your talents and potential and achieving your goals and dreams.

A key part of self-development is becoming more self-aware. This is understanding yourself and why you do things. It’s knowing your strengths and weaknesses. It’s being clear on your life’s purpose, mission and values.

So self-development is developing yourself by yourself. But perhaps with the help of other people, through coaching, therapy, reading books or watching videos.

The self-development industry in the US is worth $11 billion. Every year $500 million is spent on personal development products, courses and seminars. It’s a vast market!

What Is Not Self-Development.

Self-development is not being “fixed” by someone or something else. The power to change ultimately lies within you, not someone else.

It’s not learning personal development without applying it to your life. It’s not a dopamine hit. This is consuming self-development content purely to feel better now. This often leads to becoming a personal development junkie.

If you want self-development to be more than a hobby or entertainment, then it’s essential that you apply what you learn.

Would you like a step-by-step formula for success? Or to learn the rules that successful people follow? If so, click the button below to discover this for yourself.

My Self-Development Journey

My first experience of self-development was attending a seminar on stress management whilst at university. This was fascinating and encouraged me to learn and practice meditation.

When I moved to London, I became interested in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and was actively involved with the NLP practice groups in London.

There were three books that I read that had a massive impact on me.  There were.

At this time, I wanted to improve my social confidence and dating skills. I used self-development activities to help me do that successfully.

I had a wonderful life in my 30s. I got married, had many friends, a brilliant career and lots of opportunities to travel. So, I lost interest in self-development. 

In 2010, we moved to Sydney Australia and continued to have a wonderful life. However, I didn’t feel happy or fulfilled in my career, despite changing jobs several times. Now, in my 40s, I also had some niggling health issues that influenced my state of mind.  I became more interested in natural health. That then led me back into self-development and especially mind-body healing.

I decided to make self-development my career, so I invested in training to become a qualified clinical hypnotherapist and also launch the Self Help for Life online business and brand.

The 12 Best Self-Development Activities That Will Change Your Life

So now you know what self-development is, lets dive into 12 of the best self-development activities that have changed my life and I’m sure they will do the same for you too.

1. Affirmations

Affirmations are short, positive statements about what you want in life. You repeat these statements as often as you can. Repeating them out-loud is most effective, but silently to yourself is good too.

Affirmations help replace those repetitive negative thoughts that keep you stuck. You’re already saying negative affirmations to yourself, so you’re simply replacing these negative affirmations with positive ones.

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An alternative to affirmations is Lofty questions. You can learn about these here.

2. Meditation

Meditation is highly effective for reducing stress and anxiety. Meditation helps you gain a greater awareness of your thoughts and feelings. And when you’re meditating, you can change those thoughts and feelings, or let them go.

The easiest way to meditate is to focus on your breathing. Close your eyes and focus on breathing in and breathing out.  Whenever your mind wanders (and it will frequently, especially if you’re new to this), then accept that this is fine.  It’s completely natural.

Then as soon as you notice your mind wandering (and this could be a few seconds after your mind wondered), gently bring it back to your breathing.

Another option is guided meditations. This is listening to a recording of someone giving you relaxing suggestions. You then focus on the words being said. There are thousands of guided meditation recordings available and also guided meditation mobile apps.

3. Creative Visualization

We naturally use our imagination. However, it’s typically for worst-case scenarios or things we are afraid of. Just like thinking negatively, we imagine negatively too.

Creative visualization allows you to counteract negative imagery by vividly imagining what you want instead. It’s seeing situations and activities going the way you want them to go. Creative Visualization is often known as mental rehearsal, especially in sports and athletics.

Creative visualization is much more than seeing the positive outcome in your mind. It includes hearing and feeling it too. You want to engage all the senses, even smell and taste if you can.

Olympic athletes use creative visualization all the time. It’s an essential part of what they do to become the best in their sport.  They might not consciously use creative visualization, but they definitely do it unconsciously. 

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4. Self-Hypnosis

Self-hypnosis is like guided meditation.  However, it’s more goal oriented. People use self-hypnosis to increase motivation or confidence. Or to stop a bad habit such as smoking, overeating or drinking too much alcohol.

The easiest way is to listen to a self-hypnosis recording. There are thousands of those available and some are more effective than others.

I use and recommend the self-hypnosis recordings created by Uncommon Knowledge. Their website is https://hypnosisdownloads.com. 

You could learn how to hypnotize yourself without using self-hypnosis recordings. I cover this in one of the related articles below.

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5. Journaling

When we keep thoughts in our head, this can lead to overwhelm and confusion.  It’s very easy to blow things out of proportion. To make it much bigger than it really is.

Journaling is writing your thoughts on paper (or in a computer file). When you do this, you gain a fresh perspective, a calmer mind and greater clarity. Writing can help release emotions too.

For the best results, write your thoughts on paper. However, if you prefer to type your thoughts on your computer, tablet or smart phone, that’s fine too.  The most important thing is to do it!

6. Setting and Achieving Goals

Most people use self-development activities to improve or change their life.  This starts with setting goals, so you’re clear on what you want to achieve and by when. Goals provide a focus for all the other self-development activities.

When you set goals, this gives you the desire and motivation to consistently work on self-development activities. You have a specific reason and benefit to work on yourself.

I encourage you to set SMART goals. SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-bound.

Start by setting goals for this year, and then smaller quarterly or monthly goals.  Equally important is reviewing your goals regularly, at least monthly. Check that you’re on track and make any adjustments to maximize your chances of achieving these goals.

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7. Coaching

A one-on-one coaching session is a highly effective form of self-development. An excellent coach will ask you direct, dedicated and personalized questions to help uncover your blind spots.

They will help you expand your beliefs about what is possible for you. A professional coach will also identify and help you change any limiting beliefs.

An important benefit of coaching is goal setting with accountability. It’s much harder to wriggle out of a goal that you have shared with a life coach.  You are accountable to the coach. If you fail to achieve the goal, you will need to explain your reasons (and excuses) to your life coach.

In the same way as a Personal Trainer will drive you to do 30 push-ups, when you only feel like doing 20, a skilled coach will spur you to achieve your goals faster and expand on what is possible.

8. Therapy

Therapy differs from coaching. It helps heal past events that stop you from moving forward in your life right now. Therapy helps you deal and resolve traumatic events. Or childhood events that shape your beliefs about what is possible for you right now.

There are different types of therapy.  These include counseling and various forms of psychotherapy. If you see a psychologist, they will often use Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

There is also hypnotherapy, which is what I specialize in. Hypnotherapy can help deal with, heal and resolve past events. Or it can be more solution focused, which makes it similar to coaching.

If you would like me to be your therapist or coach, then this page provides further details.

9. Overcoming Fears

One of the best self-development activities is overcoming your fears. I believe that fear is the biggest barrier to success. It’s fear that keeps people stuck. One of the fastest ways to grow and improve yourself is to overcome fears.

Do things that scare or frighten you, especially those that won’t affect you physically. For example, public speaking, talking to strangers, tough phone calls or recording videos.

Perhaps it’s having that difficult conversation with your partner or boss that you’ve been putting off for weeks.

Rather than tackling your biggest fears head on, you can start gently.  Break down your biggest fears into smaller action steps. As you complete each step, your confidence and experience will grow and you’ll feel more able to overcome the bigger fears.

Another way to strengthen your fear muscle is to do something new, unfamiliar or a little uncomfortable each day.  This could include going to a new café, trying a different food or exploring a more efficient way of doing a task at work.

10. Completing Challenges

A challenge is when you invest a significant amount of time and energy to achieve something monumental in a relatively short space of time. Here are some examples.

  • Training and then running a marathon
  • Starting a business
  • Changing jobs or your career
  • Losing a significant amount of weight.

When you set challenges, it forces you to step up and become more.  Challenges help you prove that you can do something, that you thought was difficult or even impossible.

Challenges are fantastic for overcoming habits and for achieving the more important and meaningful goals in your life.

For challenges to work effectively, you want to specify an exact amount of time.  This could be 30, 60, 90 or 100 days.  For me, 100 days works incredibly well.  I started Self Help for Life and my Hypnotherapy business in 100 days.  You can achieve so much in 100 days when you put your mind to it. It’s also long enough to make it a habit.

I do a 100 Day-Challenge every year and I use Gary Ryan Blair’s 100 Day Challenge program to motivate me, inspire me and keep me accountable during that time.

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11. Taking Action

I touched on this earlier, but it’s so important! Learning a new self-development activity, tool or technique is useless if you don’t apply it to your life. Or a Stephen Covey says “to know and not to do is not to know”.

So here are some examples:

  • Reading and learning the most effective dating techniques versus going on dates
  • Researching the most effective ways to speak in public versus speaking in public
  • Learning all the different ways to make money on the internet versus starting an internet-based business.

Knowing is easy. You can gain the knowledge by going to university or surfing the web. All the information you need is readily available.

Doing is applying what you’ve learned and testing it out.  You’re not fully committed at this stage.

Living is taking consistent action on what you’ve learned. You improve through repetition. This leads to consistent and predictable results.  The action becomes a habit and perhaps even part of who you are.

12. Expressing Gratitude

The key reason for doing self-development activities is to achieve something that we don’t already have.  It’s easy to become focussed (even obsessed) about achieving goals and major life changes.  This can lead to unhappiness and frustration, especially if the goal takes much longer than you intended.

It’s easy to forget what you have now and the good aspects of your life. Therefore gratitude and appreciation are so important.

Take a few minutes to be grateful for what you already have. Write all the things you’re grateful for and that you appreciate. Create a gratitude journal and list additional things each day.

Focus on simple things such as having enough food, good health, a safe and comfortable place to live or enough money. Be grateful for waking up and experiencing another day of your life.

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To Conclude

So now you have a list of the 12 best self-development activities, including many of the ones I do regularly. If you want to crush your goals, be happier more fulfilled and more successful, then apply some of these self-development activities to your life and reap the benefits.

Thank you for reading this article.  If you enjoyed it and found it useful, then please share it with other people, or on social media.

Hope you are having a wonderful day!

Paul

100 Day Challenge Review | Gary Ryan Blair

Do you believe you can change your life in 100 days? I do! In past years, I have used the 100 Day Challenge to develop my mindset, attitude, and drive to succeed in my goals. One of my 100 Day Challenge goals was launching this website!

In this article, I review the 100 Day Challenge and explain how it helped me achieve huge success. 

Would you like to start a new business, lose weight, be debt-free, change career, or achieve another big goal? If so, Gary Ryan Blair’s 100 Day Challenge will help you achieve your life-changing goals more quickly and easily.

My 100 Day Challenge review will help you decide if this program is worth investing in. It was life-changing for me, and I’m confident it can be for you too!

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What Is the 100 Day Challenge?

It’s a hard-core goal-setting and goal-achieving program. Over 600,000 people in 80 countries have completed Gary’s 100 Day Challenge program. The goals they managed to achieve are incredible!

Some of them launched a business in 100 days. Many people lost weight and regained their health in 100 days. Others paid off their mortgage or reached the goal of becoming debt-free.

Small business owners doubled or even tripled their sales and commissions. Aspiring writers wrote their first book in 100 days, instead of many months or even years.

Companies such as IBM, Xerox, Sony, Boeing, and BMW have taken their teams through this 100 Day Challenge program.

Gary Ryan Blair – the Creator of the 100 Day Challenge

Gary Ryan Blair has become known as the Goals Guy. He developed a reputation for helping people and companies achieve big goals. Gary has worked with the US Navy Seals and many major corporations.

He is a person of high integrity and is incredibly motivating and inspiring. His no-nonsense direct approach is very effective. He focuses on speed and getting things done quickly and effectively.

Why 100 Days?

In my experience, there are 2 reasons. Firstly, 100 days is a reasonable amount of time to achieve a life-changing goal. It’s not too long, and it’s not too short. It’s just enough.

Secondly, if you do something consistently for 100 days, it will become a habit. Let’s say you’ve set a 100-day challenge to get fit and lose weight. You’re following a particular diet and exercise regime. After 100 days, that will become a habit, and you will keep doing it very naturally.

We’re not on this planet for very long, and we don’t have time to waste. This challenge emphasizes speed, urgency, and getting things done fast. But also getting them done well and to the best quality. A big part of the 100 Day Challenge is learning to be pro-active and have a strong offense.

My 100 Day Challenge Review

Now I would like to talk about the 100 Day Challenge program itself. When you first join the program, you will go through an orientation process.

Set 3 Goals

A key part of the orientation process is to set yourself up to 3 goals. I highly recommend that you identify these goals before you enroll in the program.

Identify your Reasons

For each of these goals, identify the 3 most important reasons for achieving this goal. These will give you a strong “why”. Think carefully and answer these questions:

  • Why do you want to achieve that goal?
  • What’s the benefit?
  • What’s it going to give you?
  • How’s it going to change your life?

Having great reasons and a strong “why” will give you the motivation to continue your 100 Day Challenge when things get a bit tough.

Make an Action Plan

Once you’ve done that, the next step is to create a rough action plan. One hundred days is quite a long time. So set yourself some sub-goals – for every 10, 20, or 30 days. It’s important to have a roadmap with smaller goals that you want to reach. So as you’re going through the 100 Day Challenge, you can see whether you’re on track or not.

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Start of Each Day

So you’ve set your goals and created your plans. That’s the initials steps done.  Here are the main things that you will do each day whilst completing the 100 Day Challenge program.

Daily Video

Each day you will watch a different inspirational, motivational, and actionable video by Gary Ryan Blair. I recommend that you watch this video as soon as you get up and before you do anything else! Each video is between 6 and 11 minutes long. I encourage you to watch the video with complete concentration.

There is also an audio version available if you want to listen on the go. But I would highly recommend to both listen and watch. There’s something about watching and listening that just gets the information in at a much deeper level.

Start Fast & Finish Strong

Each lesson finishes with a prompt to start the day fast and finish it strong. This means starting your actions for the day early and getting things done quickly. It’s about finishing the day with a great sense of power and achievement.

A Reminder of Your 3 Goals

After watching the video, you’ll see your 3 goals listed below that video. This forces you to see these goals daily. We know how important it is to review your goals and read them every day. The 100-day challenge program ensures that you do that.

Daily Actions

You’ve watched the video and reviewed your goals. The next step is to enter the actions that you’re going to do today. These actions should help you get closer to achieving each of your 3 goals. Each action has a checkbox so that you can tick them off later.

Integrity Pledge

Once you’ve done that, I recommend that you read the integrity pledge. This is below your actions and is as follows.

I will honor every commitment.
I will keep every promise.
I will achieve every goal.

There is something powerful about saying this to yourself. It gives you the sense that you’re going to commit to doing it and making it happen.

Accountability Emails

Once you have entered your actions for the day, you can email them to yourself as a reminder. You can also email them to your accountability buddy if you have one. I highly recommend that you look into having an accountability buddy if you can. It can be very beneficial.

Later in the day or the following morning, depending on where you live in the world, you will get an email. This email will remind you of all the actions you set for that day. Open the email and check them off. It’s always very satisfying to do that. If you didn’t achieve every action you set, ask yourself why and learn from that. Your accountability buddy will get the email as well, so they can evaluate your progress too.

Weekly After Action Review

A crucial, fundamental, and powerful part of the 100 Day Challenge is the weekly After Action Review. It’s a chance to evaluate your progress over the week. It involves answering questions such as:

  • What did you set out to do this week?
  • What actually happened?
  • What were your results?
  • Why did it happen?
  • What are you going to do next time to change things?

The 5 Step After Action Review Process

The 100 Day Challenge After Action Review consists of 5 steps:

Step 1 – rate your performance on a scale of 1 to 5. A score of 1 is not productive (or no action was taken), 2 is poor, 3 is average, 4 is good, and 5 is exceptional. It’s a bit like a school report except that you do it on yourself!

Step 2 – identify the outcomes achieved and the progress made.

Step 3 – identify the strengths – the actions, strategies, and lucky breaks that led you to success during that week.

Step 4 – identify the weaknesses – the actions, attitudes, and obstacles that compromise your progress.

Step 5 – identify the corrective actions that you need to do to get yourself back on track.

You can email the results to yourself and your accountability buddy if you have one. If you do, I encourage you to check in with that person, on the phone or even face to face.

I can’t stress enough the power of the After Action Review. The first couple of times I did the 100-day challenge, I was a bit lax about doing this. After 3 or 4 weeks, I realized I was quite off course and behind schedule.

If you do the 100 Day Challenge After Action Review every week, it will ensure that you are on the right track. If you neglect it, you may start doing things that waste your time and are not as effective. And this means that achieving your goals is going to take more time and be more frustrating. So it’s vital to make time in your schedule to complete the After Action Review each week.

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Other Great Features

There are many other features of The 100-Day Challenge, but here are 3 that I think are especially useful:

The Forum

The 100 Day Challenge has a great forum. It includes a sub-forum for each daily lesson.

You can share your experiences and thoughts about the lesson for that day. You can create accountability through the forum (and even find an accountability buddy). You can share your success stories, as well as your struggles. Having a community of people to help you is super important.

Weekly Audio Call

As part of the 100 Day Challenge After Action Review, Gary includes a live weekly audio call. This provides great motivation, inspiration, and actionable content every week. I have found these calls to be especially helpful. They are recorded in case you can’t make them live.

Mobile App

This is extremely convenient for doing the 100-day challenge when you’re on the go. The mobile app allows you to put in new actions, mark them as complete and watch the videos on the go.

Top Tip

The 100 Day Challenge starts on the day that you enroll. For this reason, I recommend that you work out your goals or at least have a relatively good idea of what you want to achieve before you enroll.

The first time I enrolled in the 100 Day Challenge, I wasn’t particularly clear on what I wanted to achieve. So I spent the first few days working out what my goals were. Whilst I was doing that the challenge was ticking by. I think it was day 5 when I actually started the challenge.

To get around this, I watched 2 videos a day to catch up, which was okay. However, it did get me off to a more reactive start than I would have liked. So it is important to have some clear ideas of what you want to achieve before you decide to enroll in the 100 Day Challenge.

My Results

I have completed the 100 Day Challenge program 4 times. The first time, it helped me launch my hypnotherapy practice here in Sydney. In 100 days, I went from nothing to having everything set up and seeing my first paying clients.

The next year, I used this program to launch Self Help for Life. It helped me develop the mindset, attitude, and drive to record the first videos for my Self Help for Life YouTube channel.

Every year I use The 100 Day Challenge to achieve my goals and to take my life and my business to the next level.

To conclude this review, I highly recommend the 100 Day Challenge. Whether you are planning to start a new business, increase sales, lose weight, become debt-free, change career, or any other life-changing goal, Gary Ryan Blair’s 100 Day Challenge will help you achieve your goals much more quickly and easily.

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Thank you for reading this article.  If you enjoyed it and found it useful, then please share it with other people, or on social media.

Hope you are having a wonderful day!

Paul